Ever sit down and think of how you have been given chances and chances when you have done wrong in your early age? Pieces of advice, had then been trying to deliver to us. Why so? Why don't our seniors just slammed us with all those blames? The answer is so simple - they loved us. Do we ever realise that then? I remembered back in my year when I had a few seniors who really helped us so sincerely throughout our tenure. And of course there was a senior too who didn't really show a good example as a senior. At the end, she was boycotted by us. This is not my concern here.
Personally, I have been looking at my juniors - batch after batch growing up. Besides observing, another thing that I will most of the time been doing is advising. I don't really know if my advices have been adapted or not, or maybe it is useful and practical. Be it or not, I knew I have this responsibility to do so. Yes, everyone has been telling me, batch by batch, thanks for your advice, thanks for sharing, so on and so forth. I don't really know whether this is just a formality to simply say a thank you and then bye bye. Or is either they just let me talk what I wanted to say, and that's it. I don't really care about that. I just know what I have done is deeply came from my sincere heart. I do everything with the intention to see them growing. I wasn't paid a single cent by any parties for advising. I didn't receive any award for doing so. If I did, I am willing to do more than that.
It is so important for us as seniors to guide our juniors. Merely sharing our experiences is more than sufficient. At least we let them understand that we have been facing the same difficulties. This at least has shown that we are being supportive to them. One might think of the importance of such supports, but trust me, it really helps a lot. This encouragement has been the mechanism to motivate them with more confidence to work towards goals.
On the other hand, if we are just being a bit critical and only criticize on them, will they really be able to grow up? In certain cases, yes it may. Will it work if we are just talking at their back? What will be then their feelings if they know that we have been talking about their "lackness" at their back? Let's think wisely. What is then our true and main concern? We as the seniors deeply concern of their growth. Then why don't we discharge our duty in more practical way? Today's juniors will reflect how much efforts we have been putting in to develop them. How much shame has been caused will not be their fault, but ours. Isn't it naive if we are "
attacking" our own juniors, instead of nurturing them?
Remember, love them.
yellowhen
p/s: This article has been written in a very calm way based on the author (which is me)'s experiences. It has been written with sincere wish to see them grow in this noble society as how we grew during our years. Any words, sentences or phrases which excite any dissatisfaction or hatred, are much regretted. There is no mala fide or any bad intention in writing this piece of article. It is merely a piece of experience sharing, thus, has no legal effect nor being able to be used as evidence in the court.
